I like this quote…
I like this quote…
Eleanor Roosevelt once said “No one can make you feel inferior
without your consent”.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said “No one can make you feel inferior
without your consent”.
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November 22nd, 2004 at 4:56 pm
mrs. roosevelt was an amazing person, but this one rubs me wrong. it feels like it gives people permission to be asses and it places the blame for the offence squarely on the offendee, not the offender.
November 22nd, 2004 at 6:58 pm
Sara; I like it. But I also agree with Nathan. People are just mean though!
November 23rd, 2004 at 8:34 am
Being the recipient of a hurtful remark doesn’t necessarily make one FEEL inferior. What she says is true in that only you are responsible for your feelings/reactions. And the word inferior is very specific. She didn’t say no one can hurt your feelings without your consent. Although that would kind of be true as well.
michel
November 23rd, 2004 at 10:32 am
I think in no way does this excuse a jerk for being a jerk. It gives a person the job of not allowing jerks to worm their way into hurtful places. From the context of where I found it, was people trying to remind others of where they had come from, not celebrate the change in their lives. I think that is why people always take on the victim role. This quote, to me says, “Stand up and take control. Don’t allow the comments or thoughts of others take you down.” Sometimes much easier said than done.
November 23rd, 2004 at 5:24 pm
someone please teach a class on how to not let remarks against you effect you personally, because that’s a skill (numbness?) i’d love to poses. my emotional reaction to someone’s comments are in no way under my control.
November 24th, 2004 at 9:25 pm
Well, I think it’s not so much numbness as just learning to deal with people, and not allowing your view of yourself to be subject to their hurtful comments.
Of course, you will have an *initial* negative emotional reaction, but from that point on, the decision is mostly up to you whether you will brush it off or let it drag you down.
For me, this is what I think of when I hear/read about “taking every thought captive, making it obedient…”. The reference example that’s usually given for this is the initial response of “noticing” an attractive person vs. dwelling on that initial reaction and letting it become lust. I think the same goes for the subject we’re talking about; everyone naturally, “instinctually” has both emotional and intellectual responses, but we also have a spirit/soul/”higher self” that is capable of (and responsible for) not allowing those things to override what we know to be the right way to live, and (in this case) think about ourselves.
- JaredB
November 26th, 2004 at 10:05 pm
that makes sense. i guess i was reading “no one can make you feel” to be a commentary on that initial reaction. however, there is of course extreme value to the skill of taking every thought captive. definitely need to work on that…