Why Bother?
Why Bother?
At risk of uncovering people, I feel I must share this quandry I have run into. Here goes.
I wonder at what point a person discontinues their feelings of concern about what people think or how what they do affects others. When does one decide that being rude is ok and the politeness of your youth can be flushed down the crapper. It seems that some never get to a point of being polite at all, but others at some point in their lives, usually when they get older, talk about things and do things that they would not have felt comfortable doing so in earlier years. My dilemma is, is that ok? The elderly are entitled somehow to do whatever they wish becuase they put in their time here on earth. I’m not sure I wholly agree with that sentiment. Common politeness and decency in public situations should be required at all ages, unless the mental capacity is limited. Making others comfortable is important and when time is spent with a person who has abandoned that almost comlpetely, it tends to be frustrating and border on breeding resentment. Is is rude to say,”That is ofensive to me. Please don’t do it” Nothing harsh inteded here, I’m just learning to live life in a different way. I’m trying to grow, but one must ask questions to learn.
Or here’s another thought, maybe it’s just MEN. (I’m sure my husband will chime in here with his wisdom.)
All I know is I am holding to my position, I would really rather not get too old.
75 sounds good.
December 30th, 2004 at 8:03 pm
Knowing the situation you’re talking about (I think), I’d have to admit that it is more likely to be just men.
- JaredB
January 1st, 2005 at 12:49 am
Hi Martha,
Good questions. I can appreciate your desire to stretch and grow. I know that for me personally, I find that as I age, it becomes easier for me to be who I really am. What I mean by that is that the camelion(sp?) of youth has almost disappeared and I find that I can be more honest about my insides and share them on my outside. No, age does not give one license to be rude, demanding, demeaning or just plain difficult. If you allow others to treat you disrespectfully there is no one to blame but yourself. Speak up girl!!!! And no, I don’t believe it is just men. Mom taught me that!
Just my humble opinion. Take what you want and leave the rest. Love you.
January 3rd, 2005 at 9:46 am
i think that if you allow people to be rude to you…you are giving them a license to repeat it. And not knowing the situation..but knowing your husband…i think it is just your husband…ok ok im just kidding. But I do think that the older you get, in most cases, the ruder people can get. Not sure why…and not always the case..but very often the case. Maybe it has to do with how they’ve been treated for so long. Anyways speak up..or be get used to being driven over….
craig…yes its me
January 3rd, 2005 at 10:59 am
old people get a license to be rude. it’s what makes them cute, just like it’s cute when the young people get frustrated with them. i know when i turn 26, i’m going apeshit!
January 5th, 2005 at 3:55 pm
Nothing cute going on here.