Heartache
Heartache
I can handle my own heartaches, but when it’s your kid…wow, is that a different story. Christian asked a friend to sleepover and was waiting for him to call back because he had to wait for his mom. Christian finally called 5 hours later and he had gone to sleep at another friends house and never called. Man, my instinct is to call his mom but Christian doesn’t want me to. Second instinct, write the kid off forever. Good loving attitude, eh? Mama bear is at the ready. What to do?
June 24th, 2006 at 3:52 pm
How does Christian want to handle it?
June 24th, 2006 at 6:27 pm
Yeah. Definitely, if Christian does not want you to talk to the mom, you probably should think of a different approach. It’s not worth making him feel self conscious or stupid in front of the kid next time he sees him. It’s probably one of those irresponsible things that kids do. The first kid had probably already been invited to the other kids house, but was afraid to tell Christian. So then he went without making the call to Christian hoping the whole thing would just go away. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just to convince Christian that some times things get screwed up and it doesn’t mean the kid’s not his friend. (I know Christian is reaonable enough to agree to that.) Try inviting the kid again in a few days. Also, if in the end, the kid was trying to “dis” Christian, well, there are more fish in the ocean, ya know. We can have a very nice life without that jerk, thank you very much. As Mrs. Kilpatrick says, “if someone treats you mean, YOU don’t have a problem, THEY have a problem.” And that kid can just take his problem and jump off a cliff for all I care!!!!! Oh, I’m sorry. I mean, forgive him and go on with your life.
June 24th, 2006 at 6:30 pm
And yeah, I know what you mean. It hurts more when it’s done to your kids. But usually your kids (especially boys named Jared, Randy, Nate, Nick and Christian) have a way easier time handling these things. (I don’t know about Riley, yet. I haven’t seen him in similar situations.)
June 24th, 2006 at 7:17 pm
Bummer. But it could be that his mom set up the sleepover with out talking to the kid or the kid had already committed to another sleepover and forgot. You never know… Ice cream? That seems to be a treat that noone turns down!
June 24th, 2006 at 7:35 pm
Kidnap.
June 24th, 2006 at 7:51 pm
Yeah, I tend to think that it was just a misunderstanding or prior plan that the friend felt bad about not being able to change.
June 24th, 2006 at 7:52 pm
He wanted to handle it by inviting someone else over. He said he was hurt but was ok. I guess I’ll just have to let him do it his way. I had along time to think and I know I need to encourage him that it’s ok and sometimes people mass up. I thought of plying him with food, but I’d rather not train him to be an emotional eater, like me! Thanks for the thoughts and you’re right Jac…he’s fine. I’m the one still dealing with it.
June 24th, 2006 at 11:10 pm
Christian is a great kid and I’m sure he has tons of other friends…unfortunately I tend to think the “worst” maybe the kid had a “better” offer. It’s happend to me more times than I would like to remember and it SUCKS!
June 25th, 2006 at 12:57 am
you should have christian bring the kids that had sleep over without him breakfast.
June 25th, 2006 at 8:00 am
Just teach him that whenever he is dissapointed he should retreat to video games. An emotional video game player is much healthier than an emotional eater, because, at the least, emotional video game players improve their hand eye coordination, and we all know that that is more important than caring about people anyway.
June 25th, 2006 at 2:04 pm
I knew I raised that kid right.
June 25th, 2006 at 8:22 pm
Does that mean that Randy Jr is in a constant state of disappointment?
June 26th, 2006 at 7:27 pm
My video game habits have nothing to do with my emotional state. They are a result of a brain disease called video-gamism. I tried to change my behavior with an 11 step program once… I got so close to succeeding at breaking my psychological dependence of video games, but it just felt like I needed just a little bit more to free myself of their grasp… Almost like I need maybe just one more step or something. I don’t know, I’m not a doctor.
All the good advice on this subject had already been dispensed, so I thought I would just share a little form the heart.